Romance is a very weird thing. I have this theory, that even though guys and girls are different as it relates to relationships, if they are both inlove they are the same. Let me explain. Women are very affectionate, typically moreso than men. We like the grand guestures, we like the surprises(good ones), we like the mushy stuff: kisses on the forehead, flowers, love letters(yes you heard correct), the nice dinner all that. But men most times are not like that at all, they dont like to talk to us on the phone for long and dont understand why we like it. They dont really like the mushy stuff and are not as emotional as we are.
However, when he falls in love with you, he changes somewhat. He cares about what you think and tries his best to make you happy. When you are sad it pains him, because he wants you to be happy. He makes sure that you are constantly reminded that he cares about you. He reminds you not to make sure you are not miserable and emotional, but because he wants to, he does it without thinking. He makes grand guestures and constantly surprises you and most of all he always want to hear your voice and be with you, because those moments make him just as happy as it makes his girlfriend. He is willing to make sacrifices for you because of the love you share, small sacrifices and big ones. He will not watch the game tonight because he hasnt seen you in a while and needs to spend time with you. He will stay up late and make sure you get home safely, he will even go to a party with you even though he is a little tired. He hears what you have to say and really listens. So he knows when you disappointed, when you sad, when you happy.
If he doesnot really care about you then he cares not about how you feel, and when you are unhappy he doesnot really know that you are. Thats because he doesnt care about you and therefore cannot detect your unhappiness or sadness and doesnt care to. He is detached, individualistic and self absorbed. He makes no sacrifices however little they are. If he is just passing time with you, he sweats the small stuff, there is an argument about the silliest thing.
It is pretty obvious when a guy doesnot care about you, at least to me it is. Because of what he does and how he does it, in short: his actions. My friends and I were discussing this recently. Even if he is a good liar, he cant fool you about love, he just cant. So if you with a guy and he shows these tendencies then move on.
On the cynical side: I was watching a movie the other day about a couple inlove and i thought to myself that alot of times people mistake, what they see in the movies as what really happens in real life, and therefore very disappointed when it doesnt happen. Not many guys are willing to go the extra mile for a girl, not many actually care further than the fact that they wanna have sex with that person.
Have I ever been inlove, yeah i think so.
2 comments:
This post seems very one sided. Guys want grand gestures too, we are often given nothing to work with.
y'all girls are lucky if you catch a fool that is willing to put up with your bs.
I still love you despite your last comment :). Girls are lucky if a guy is willing to put up with our billshit- I dont think so.
I think you guys are lucky that we even entertain you :).
Guys want grand guestures, and they get it. Sometimes they dont appreciate it at all.
You are very cynical as per ususal. And you wouldnt know a nice girl even if you were clairvoyant
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